I can’t cartwheel. It is not a skill I learned as a child and now, as a woman in her 30s, I feel almost enraged that I can’t do this simple thing.
Now taking the time do a cartwheel for the first time makes me super nervous (I feel ridiculous even writing that…)
I’ve been skydiving ; once in New Zealand and then again in Argentina because I enjoyed the brush with death so much the first time.
I’ve ridden a bull in Ecuador, just before they slit the animal’s throat to drink it’s blood.
Once in Thailand I jump-roped over fire because it seemed like a great story to tell my grandkids one day (still have a scar on my ankle).
Yet the idea of putting my hands on the ground and flinging my feet over my end causes me to panic. There is no good reason for this other than it’s gone on for far too long and the longer I wait, the bigger the obstacle. The same goes for going out into the world, and traveling alone.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” ~ Henry Ford
I can cartwheel, certainly. I have arms and legs and a relatively knowledge of physics. But something stops me every time I look down at the ground. Maybe it’s the idea that I’ll look foolish. Maybe I need to take a deep breath and just do it. If I think I can, I can. I am my biggest obstacle.
I know so many men and LOTS of women who think they can’t travel at this time in their lives or take their first trip alone. I want to tell you that it’s bull crap. Don’t be an idiot of course- walking alone at night, drunk on an abandoned street with your diamond tiara perched jauntily on your head is a really stupid move.
There will be uncomfortable moments. But it is entirely possible to have a rocking good time on your vacation, on your own, drama free. You will have moments that are lonely, but life sucks sometimes. At least it can suck while you’re on a boat to a Croatian island on a glorious sunny day. That sucks way less.
1. Take a deep breath, and plan your first trip.
If you want some real talk, every time I get on a plane to go to some foreign place alone I cry. Every. Time. I think, what the actual f*ck am I doing?? But within minutes of getting off the plane I feel at home, like I’m doing exactly what I should be doing.
And I don’t have time for raw emotions, because I’m looking for local transport to get me into town for some rad activities, and this dame ain’t no sucker for overpriced taxis. Step one is choosing to take a trip. The rest will follow.
2. Do what you want, when you want to.
You earned that money, and if you want to take a week’s vacation to a remote beach in Mexico then DO IT!!! People can join you if they feel like also being awesome. Want to stay at that museum for 10 minutes or 10 hours? You can. Want to sleep in all day or wake up to watch the sunrise? Delightful. I promise you, the rewards of solo travel far outweigh any concerns.
3. Don’t make excuses for “someday”.
There is no such thing as someday, only Monday, Tuesday, Wed.. well you get the point. The fear will only grow the more you let it simmer. Plus we all know life happens and you might not get the chance someday. I can’t tell you how many of my parent’s friends in their 60s tell me they wish they had traveled when they were young. You can start anytime! And it gets easier with every trip.Someday is not a day of the week. Click To Tweet
4. Traveling solo is a choice, not a requirement.
But I want to live in a world where people feel confident to go and experience life on their own terms. Go with a friend if you have one with the time to take a trip. Go anyway if you don’t. You’ll make friends once you get there. If you are open to the experience amazing things can happen. But don’t feel pressured, good things never happen this way. You do you.
You are amazing and powerful. Take that energy and see what the world can offer you. You are only limited by your ability to envision something different. In the meantime, maybe you can tell me the best way to not break my face while mid- cartwheel.
Where do you want to go first?
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